If you’re a Canadian and want this offer in CAD, please pay through this link
Important Note: Signed Copy Release Notes + Shipping Timeline:
Because each book is signed, packed, and mailed by me (not a warehouse), please allow 4-7 weeks for your order to arrive from the date you place it. Timing can vary based on your location and what shipping looks like that week.
If you’re ordering internationally, or if you’re in the U.S. and your package is coming from Canada, please expect a bit of extra time. Between customs and the current tariff situation, Canada-to-U.S. shipping can move slower than usual, and delays are outside of my hands.
Thank you so much for your patience, your support, and your grace. 🤎
Please note that when these books are sent out, they do not include tracking, as they are sent standard mail.
Oh, to Be Tender isn’t a perfect little healing manual. It’s not a “rise and grind” optimism book either. It’s a collection of reflections, poems, and lived insights for folks who feel deeply, hold a lot, and still have to show up anyway.
You know the ones.
Hey, you probably are the one, and that’s why you’re here.
This is the kind of book you reach for when you’re trying to name what’s happening inside you without turning your life into a performance. When you’re grieving something you can’t fully explain. When you’re in love, but also tired. When you’re proud of yourself, but still a little wrapped up in what it cost. When you’re learning how to be honest about what you need, without dragging yourself through the mud, wondering if it’s “too much.”
Read it in order. Read it out of order. Read it like a snack. Open it to a random page when you can’t find language for what you feel, but you know you’re feeling something. This isn’t a book that’ll ask you to “choose happiness” while your life is on fire. It’s a book that says: name what’s real, and then decide what you want to do with it, chile. With tenderness, but with backbone too.
Copies purchased through my website are packed and shipped by me with a signed, personalized message inside. At checkout, you’ll have the option to share:
your word of the year, and
what you want 2026 to feel like
I’ll write you a short affirmation based on what you share. If you’d rather not include those details, you can also select a standard signed copy.
If you don’t want a signed/personalized copy, or you’d prefer faster delivery, you can purchase through Amazon Canada, Amazon U.S., or your local Amazon marketplace by searching “Vanessa Smithers”. (Links below.)
Print length: 86 pages
Language: English
Publication date: Jan. 16, 2026
Dimensions: 12.7 x 0.51 x 20.32 cm
Oh, to Be Tender is for the ones rebuilding. For the ones unlearning. For the ones who want to keep choosing softness, even when the world keeps trying to make it feel unsafe.
You’re safe here. I promise.
Final sale policy: All signed and personalized orders are final. Due to the custom nature of these books, I cannot accept returns, exchanges, or offer refunds. If your order arrives damaged, please contact me within 2 days of delivery with photos of the packaging and the book so I can support you.
Note: Your affirmation will be a short personalized message written inside your book. Please double-check spelling for names. Orders are final once personalized.
If you’re a Canadian and want this offer in CAD, please pay through this link
Important Note: Signed Copy Release Notes + Shipping Timeline:
Because each book is signed, packed, and mailed by me (not a warehouse), please allow 4-7 weeks for your order to arrive from the date you place it. Timing can vary based on your location and what shipping looks like that week.
If you’re ordering internationally, or if you’re in the U.S. and your package is coming from Canada, please expect a bit of extra time. Between customs and the current tariff situation, Canada-to-U.S. shipping can move slower than usual, and delays are outside of my hands.
Thank you so much for your patience, your support, and your grace. 🤎
Please note that when these books are sent out, they do not include tracking, as they are sent standard mail.
Oh, to Be Tender isn’t a perfect little healing manual. It’s not a “rise and grind” optimism book either. It’s a collection of reflections, poems, and lived insights for folks who feel deeply, hold a lot, and still have to show up anyway.
You know the ones.
Hey, you probably are the one, and that’s why you’re here.
This is the kind of book you reach for when you’re trying to name what’s happening inside you without turning your life into a performance. When you’re grieving something you can’t fully explain. When you’re in love, but also tired. When you’re proud of yourself, but still a little wrapped up in what it cost. When you’re learning how to be honest about what you need, without dragging yourself through the mud, wondering if it’s “too much.”
Read it in order. Read it out of order. Read it like a snack. Open it to a random page when you can’t find language for what you feel, but you know you’re feeling something. This isn’t a book that’ll ask you to “choose happiness” while your life is on fire. It’s a book that says: name what’s real, and then decide what you want to do with it, chile. With tenderness, but with backbone too.
Copies purchased through my website are packed and shipped by me with a signed, personalized message inside. At checkout, you’ll have the option to share:
your word of the year, and
what you want 2026 to feel like
I’ll write you a short affirmation based on what you share. If you’d rather not include those details, you can also select a standard signed copy.
If you don’t want a signed/personalized copy, or you’d prefer faster delivery, you can purchase through Amazon Canada, Amazon U.S., or your local Amazon marketplace by searching “Vanessa Smithers”. (Links below.)
Print length: 86 pages
Language: English
Publication date: Jan. 16, 2026
Dimensions: 12.7 x 0.51 x 20.32 cm
Oh, to Be Tender is for the ones rebuilding. For the ones unlearning. For the ones who want to keep choosing softness, even when the world keeps trying to make it feel unsafe.
You’re safe here. I promise.
Final sale policy: All signed and personalized orders are final. Due to the custom nature of these books, I cannot accept returns, exchanges, or offer refunds. If your order arrives damaged, please contact me within 2 days of delivery with photos of the packaging and the book so I can support you.
Note: Your affirmation will be a short personalized message written inside your book. Please double-check spelling for names. Orders are final once personalized.
